HOT TAKE: Just Because It’s “Traditional” Doesn’t Mean It’s Timeless

June 26, 2025

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Your Permission to Burn The “Rulebook” and Replace it With Meaning Instead

Let’s make one thing loud and clear: tradition isn’t sacred just because it’s been repeated for a few decades. Most “wedding traditions”? They’re stale. Dusty. Performative. And half the time, no one even knows why they’re doing them.

“That’s just how it’s done.”
Cool. So is stuffing your feelings and staying in a job you hate, but we’ve grown out of that too. RIGHT?

The wedding industrial complex thrives on fear. Fear of doing it “wrong,” of upsetting Aunt Karen, of not looking like that one influencer who got married in a Tuscan villa with “just enough” beige. But fear doesn’t create meaning. It creates weddings that look great in photos and feel like nothing.

If it doesn’t feel like you… it doesn’t belong.

Tradition is Not a Personality Trait

Hot take: the term “timeless” has been hijacked by people who are scared to stand out. It’s not about elegance or longevity, it’s about safety. “Timeless” has become code for beige, basic, and boring AF.

But real timelessness? That’s in the feeling. In the goosebumps, the gut punches, the I-still-dream-about-that-moment kind of memories. It’s not about mimicking a royal wedding or following the “correct” order of events. It’s about making choices that matter. Ones that’ll still make your heart race 40 years from now when you look back, not just because they were pretty, but because they were true.

Throw the Bouquet Tradition Off a Cliff (Metaphorically .. or Not)

Let’s take inventory.
The garter toss? Weird and creepy.
Being “given away”? Are you a goat at an auction or a grown-ass adult?
Matching bridesmaid dresses in the same blush tone no one actually likes? Stop it.

We’re not saying you can’t do any of these things. We’re saying don’t do them just because someone else did. Weddings should never feel like a costume party for your relatives’ nostalgia. You are not a prop in someone else’s fantasy. You are the main character. And main characters get to write their own damn storyline.

Your Wedding Should Be an Art Installation, Not a Script

You want meaning? Ditch the script.
Rip up the outdated blueprint and ask yourself: What would this look like if I started from zero?

Maybe that means walking into your ceremony together, hand-in-hand. Maybe it’s wearing something that makes your insides scream hell yes, even if it’s not “bridal.” Maybe it’s skipping the ceremony altogether and throwing one hell of a dinner party under the stars.

Your celebration doesn’t need to be understood by your parents’ friends. It needs to be undeniably, unapologetically YOU.

If It’s Not a Hell Yes, It’s a Hell No

If a tradition makes you cringe, roll your eyes, or check out emotionally..it’s a no. If it feels hollow, forced, or just plain boring—it’s a no. If it doesn’t align with who you are, how you love, or what matters to you—it’s a NO.

You do not need permission to do it differently. You are the permission.

TL;DR: Meaning > Tradition. Every Time.

The only thing that makes something timeless is truth. Real, honest-to-God truth that feels good in your bones and stirs something in your soul. That’s what lasts. Not a ring exchange. Not a bouquet toss. Not a pre-approved checklist from a bridal mag in 2007.

So be bold. Be weird. Be free. Make up new rituals. Rewrite the rules. Light a candle, take a shot, dance down the aisle, scream your vows into the wind. Or don’t. But whatever you do—make it yours.

Because your love isn’t cookie cutter.
And your wedding sure as hell shouldn’t be either.

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